Having a miscarriage can be a devastating and an isolating experience. You as a friend or family can support them, however, this is the most difficult thing to do. You might not know what to say or do to comfort them. Here are some things you can do to help them out.
- Just listen to them
A person who has experienced a miscarriage may need to tell the story again and again. So listen to them and avoid giving advice unless asked for. Your friend doesn’t need to know about the article you read about preventing miscarriage. Show your care by being attentive, gestures and eye contact.
- Invite them out
Social situations may be tough for the person experiencing grief and may avoid them altogether, but keep inviting them. It is okay if they need a bit space as may not be ready for social gatherings, but you can take them out. Ask them to go shopping, movie or dinner with you and leave large gatherings for later.
- Speak to them
Do not avoid your friend because it is an awkward situation and you do not know what to say. If they need to be alone then it’s okay but check on them every once in a while. Text and call them to let them know that you are thinking of them and that you care. Ask them how they are doing today as grief comes in waves and some days are better than others.
- Be aware of the reactions
Miscarriage leads to physical reactions as well as emotional reactions such as poor appetite, disturbed sleep, restlessness, low energy and other pains. The emotional reactions include panic, nervousness, nightmares and persistent fears. Encourage your friend or family member to call you when they experience these feelings.
The most important thing you can do when your friend or a loved one miscarries is to just be by their side. They will feel better by knowing that you are there for them and will talk and go out with you.